tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post280262441541973678..comments2024-03-29T16:29:15.322+05:30Comments on Deep Ties : Kick Her Out! Period!deepti menonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00157341779734584425noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-73950198565944239402015-07-11T20:35:45.021+05:302015-07-11T20:35:45.021+05:30Hi Deepti, Reading ur Blog after a long time...I j...Hi Deepti, Reading ur Blog after a long time...I just loved this post and all girls and women will agree with ur views. It is beautiful to be a woman but taboos like these make her feel depressed. A married woman is criticized when she fails to give birth or when child birth is delayed for some reason or other. But these critics do not realize that menstruating is as important as child birth without which the magic of giving birth will never happen. It is really annoying when we are treated as "untouchables" on "those" days and kept in a separate room, given separate plates and tumblers and so on. I used to wonder about these orthodox people when they buy vegetables, fruits etc from women vendors. How will they know if she is "untouchable" or not on the day they buy from her? We need to bring up our kids by saying that menses is part of a girls life and it need not hinder any activity of hers provided she is hygienic and energetic to do her job. Even sons should be educated about it so that they treat their wives with greater understanding and concern. Thanks again for writing on such an important topic and making it interesting too with pictures and posts...Jayashree S Kumarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10542400193749457952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-49111937995910409242015-04-19T00:28:57.875+05:302015-04-19T00:28:57.875+05:30Thank you so much, Geetika! I am thrilled that you...Thank you so much, Geetika! I am thrilled that you enjoyed my post!deepti menonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00157341779734584425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-64092894000824937592015-04-19T00:28:28.776+05:302015-04-19T00:28:28.776+05:30I agree with you that rest and recuperation are ve...I agree with you that rest and recuperation are very inviting! I am sure that one day you will get all those luxuries, and be able to enjoy them to the maximum! Thanks for reading and commenting on my post!deepti menonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00157341779734584425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-76213335980713640322015-04-19T00:26:47.146+05:302015-04-19T00:26:47.146+05:30Vinay, each to his or her own, I feel! No one has ...Vinay, each to his or her own, I feel! No one has the right to object to anyone else's beliefs! I saw that post that you have referred to. Thanks for reading my post and commenting on it!deepti menonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00157341779734584425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-44337385815081782282015-04-14T17:48:50.137+05:302015-04-14T17:48:50.137+05:30That's a very powerful post and I loved the qu...That's a very powerful post and I loved the quote in the end..<br /><br />CheersBoisterous Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02989123295379786851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-4001131353711198752015-04-14T00:27:06.418+05:302015-04-14T00:27:06.418+05:30personally, I could do with a little rest and glad...personally, I could do with a little rest and gladly let someone take over with the cooking and stuff!! of course minus the dingy rooms and seclusion!! and I could also use a little massage to soothe my aching back, and being allowed to vent the steam on anyone I feel like...but I will never get any of those luxuries...talk about wanting what is not! the little princesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04712703931411283046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-88998193093162797032015-04-13T23:25:35.808+05:302015-04-13T23:25:35.808+05:30Hmm. I guess I'm breaking the lady commenters ...Hmm. I guess I'm breaking the lady commenters streak here on the post. Have mom, sis and three gal best friends so have heard quite a bit from them. Mom still doesn't light the lamp in the evenings when she has her periods. Don't know if the chums have made a complete exit, because my best friend still uses that term when I ask her why she can't come meet me sometimes. But yeah, perhaps, compared to years back, the restriction seems to be lifting. This kind of reminded me of the social networking site removing the pics of a gal recently. Don't remember which site it was though, but it was on my FB homepage for quite a few days.Vinay Leo R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13132856855570330824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-81469248579032634102015-04-13T20:23:19.720+05:302015-04-13T20:23:19.720+05:30Janaki, I want to thank you for setting off the id...Janaki, I want to thank you for setting off the idea ion my head through that wonderful poster.All these rules are man made ones, and need to be taken with a sackful of salt! Thanks for visiting my page! deepti menonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00157341779734584425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-74903499557787053922015-04-13T20:04:05.793+05:302015-04-13T20:04:05.793+05:30You have hit the nail on the head. It has been a l...You have hit the nail on the head. It has been a long time since I have stopped telling people that I am having periods and take part in the Puja and other auspicious festivals.My in-laws have 'saligrama'...the very pious shivling...yet I enter the puja room when on my periods. And they are thriving.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14795001466009913035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-81346375787880026012015-04-13T19:50:26.563+05:302015-04-13T19:50:26.563+05:30Thank you, Savita,for reading through all my blogs...Thank you, Savita,for reading through all my blogs so regularly! I agree with you... only education and awareness can take the world forward, and break such taboos. deepti menonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00157341779734584425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-13798052809176579882015-04-13T19:46:52.295+05:302015-04-13T19:46:52.295+05:30Sundari, I can imagine the war you had with your g...Sundari, I can imagine the war you had with your grandmother. I guess we were born in the generation after, when we could question and argue the point! My grandmother was actually paraded on an elephant when she started her periods to announce that she was now ready for marriage! deepti menonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00157341779734584425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-46259397948118891002015-04-13T16:29:08.761+05:302015-04-13T16:29:08.761+05:30Right kind of education and awareness can only hel...Right kind of education and awareness can only help us tackle these tabooed subjects like menstruation or sexuality. I liked the way your mom convinced your granny, you have to stand by the logic and It has to start from home! You have successfully done it outside too!Savitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12449736031714618640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-25229669713484394402015-04-13T16:26:54.785+05:302015-04-13T16:26:54.785+05:30Deepti, you have addressed my pet peeve. It used t...Deepti, you have addressed my pet peeve. It used to be war at home with my grandma every month. I used to fight every single rule, especially this staying separate. I don't follow this damn rule in my home. My daughter, who's almost thirty, doesn't even know what I am talking about if I mention some of the experiences when I was a teen. And am I glad! I believe its just one more rule created by a Male to demean women. And I refuse to follow it ;)Sundari Venkatramanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16380034791641561374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-15696564291376226222015-04-13T15:37:51.257+05:302015-04-13T15:37:51.257+05:30Preethi, I agree with your entire comment. My prob...Preethi, I agree with your entire comment. My problem is with the dark and dingy room, as though the woman were an outcaste. And the warped ideas about her being unclean and able to pollute others through her touch.deepti menonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00157341779734584425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-85880899503800708572015-04-13T14:04:12.176+05:302015-04-13T14:04:12.176+05:30Deepti, I think in olden times these seclusions we...Deepti, I think in olden times these seclusions were boon for the ladies, at least they got rest from their rigorous routines. But yes, hygeine and sanitation were poor. Most of the rituals have a scientific reasoning behind it. it became misused and attrocious with time.Preethi Venugopalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17187379434511139078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-8181442225640091182015-04-13T12:19:25.799+05:302015-04-13T12:19:25.799+05:30Devika, I can understand that completely! I also s...Devika, I can understand that completely! I also still follow rules, but I don't agree with the reasons given, that's all! Thanks for the comment!deepti menonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00157341779734584425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9094662330941942080.post-27701258934767213432015-04-13T11:58:14.395+05:302015-04-13T11:58:14.395+05:30Ah, what a topic (and I'm reading it while suf...Ah, what a topic (and I'm reading it while suffering from it, what an irony)... Sri Lanka has handled / handles it much in the same way as India. In our household we're more open about it, but my sisters-in-law and I try not to go to the temple, and we do not do the Buddhist poojas at home when we're down with our menses.Devika Fernandohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09156904478720511614noreply@blogger.com