Gone are the days when heroes in Hindi films ran after buxom heroines
with coquettish pouts, dragging them down forcibly, and wooing them
with typical caveman techniques, singing songs to kindle sparks in their
fluttering hearts. Today’s macho man prefers to show off his six packs,
and handle wicked villains with one flick of his arm, along with
dialogues on orifices in the body. These men are unreal heroes, meant
only for celluloid. Who is a real man in today’s world?
depends on upbringing. A man who abuses his wife, strikes and enslaves
her will have sons made from the same mould. On the other hand, a man
who adores his wife and does little things to keep her happy, and treats
her with respect and love will father sons who grow up with the same
values. The child is the father of the man, after all!
Real men do
not think they are God’s gift to women. They appreciate their
womenfolk, treat the elderly with reverence and love their fellow human
beings, which brings to mind the wondrous poem Abou Ben Adhem.
men play sports and learn to win with honour and lose with grace. They
work in tandem with others, without giving in to ugly rage which makes
them lose their heads and resort to violence. Real men are never
bullies, who start ugly fights with those weaker than themselves, and
yet, turn into blubbering jelly when accosted by someone stronger. Real
men can not only defend themselves, but those along with them, and
always stand up for the truth.
Education and knowledge play a
vital role in defining what one is, apart from one’s basic nature.
These, along with generous doses of advice and grandma’s tales, go a
long way in moulding the character of the young child. A boy who has a
good moral grounding and a loving family will rarely go wrong in life.
grown man is strong and tender at different times. He ensures that the
women in his life realise their potential, and do well in whatever they
want to do. His is the sturdy shoulder they lean on, but it is not
unmanly to give in to grief and use their shoulders, in times of need.
men do not mind admitting that they enjoy churning out delicious dishes
or buying groceries for home. They are ready to change diapers of
babies at midnight or keep a hot water bag for their spouses who return
home after a stressful day. A sense of humour can be a great
ice-breaker. Little spats add to love, as long as they are not carried
on till they turn serious. When things go awry, a really bad joke or a
silly pun can bring back equanimity. A family that laughs together stays
together. And a family that stays together will have men who care.
key word in a great relationship has always been “respect” — towards
every person who comes one’s way, chivalry towards women of all ages,
and the realisation that every creature on earth has the right to live